Divorce Advice – The Six Paths to
In this session of divorce advice, we focus
on informing you of six paths to divorce. Your situation and
the mentality of both spouses determines your path. If just one
party in the divorce process wants to be contentious, a
cooperative divorce won’t be an option.
Consequently, if both parties can mutually agree on their
issues, the divorce process can be less painful and less
costly. Our divorce advice, “When it comes to
divorce, take the path of least resistance.”
This path is without a doubt, the best option to take. It is
utilized by couples in which BOTH parties are seeking an
amicable divorce. Although they may have children, property and
other assets, they are able to mediate and settle issues on
their own in a peaceful, non-threatening and non-combative
If an agreement can't be reached on every issue, then it
becomes a contested divorce. Contested divorces are usually
contentious and they cost a lot more money. Our divorce
advice, K.I.S.S. Keep It Sane and Simple. Parting ways
is never easy; if you must divorce, strive to keep your divorce
sane and simple.
Duly note; some states allow what is
classified as a simplified divorce. This means that both
parties agree on every detail (also referred to as a divorce by
agreement). State laws differ on simplified divorce, but it is
usually less stressful and a less expensive way to go.
Simplified divorces are usually granted very quickly (30 days
after filing is common). In fact, some states require only that
you fill out forms and have a judge approve your settlement
agreement. Others will only allow you to seek a simplified
divorce if: (a) there are no dependent children (under
18) and, (b) no outstanding financial debts involved.
This path is best used by couples who may
have children, property and other assets, and although they do
have disputes; both parties are seeking an amicable divorce. To
resolve issues, they utilize the collaborative services of
professional mediators, financial specialists, mental health
professionals, and divorce attorneys etc., which assist them
through a mediation-style process.
Our divorce advice, if both parties can sit
down at the mediation table and work out their differences,
this path can be a: money, time, and sanity saver.
This is path, known as a contested divorce, is taken by couples
when one or both parties are being inflexible, combative,
uncooperative or otherwise want to fight. Be advised; this
option can be costly, emotionally draining and potentially
leave some painful scars. Our divorce advice, only take this
path if all of the other paths have been eliminated as an
option. Once you go down this path, you could literally become
one of the characters into the movie, “The War of the Roses.”
If you haven’t seen it yet, our divorce advice is, go watch
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is normally traveled down by couples who for various reasons,
(i.e. health insurance, religious beliefs, the children’s sake
and/or financial reasons, etc.) do not want to finalize their
divorce. Our divorce advice, this path is a reasonably
acceptable option if both parties can agree on the issues and
make a commitment to stay filing divorce papers.
This path is best taken by couples who have issues to settle,
(i.e. custody issues, financial issues, placement issues, etc.)
but no reasons to go to court. Our divorce advice; Divorce
Mediation is a great path to take when both parties can
effectively communicate, settle their differences and move on
with their lives.
Pro se divorce means that you are represent yourself in court,
rather than having a divorce attorney represent you. You follow
the same procedures, but you fill out and file all the legal
forms yourself. Our divorce advice, Do It Yourself Divorce is
best taken by couples with few disputes, no property, few
assets, and no children.
As always, we hope this session of divorce advice has helped
you see things more clearly.